First Date Etiquette
So you’re about to go on a first date with someone new and you need a little insight into first date etiquette. Read on to learn everything you need to know.
First off, what should you wear? This one is pretty easy but it depends on where the date is going to be. The general rule of thumb is to look nice and not under dressed. If you overdress, you can almost always make yourself look a little more casual by taking off a tie or removing a necklace and earrings.
If you are going to a concert, dress like you belong – t-shirt, jeans, shorts, etc. If you’re going to an exclusive restaurant, then wear current and appropriate clothes (it’s a good idea to call the restaurant ahead of time and ask what their dress code is). Most of all, you want to impress your date and also be comfortable with what you are wearing and not let the feeling of not fitting in distract you from having a good time.
The next thing to think about is the time you are meeting. If you are being picked up, be ready at the time you agreed upon. If you are the one picking up, be prompt – no one likes to sit around waiting for their date to pick them up.
Now that the date has started, what do you do? First of all, make every effort to start the conversation and keep it going. This doesn’t mean talking non-stop, but avoiding long stretches of silence. Be fun and engaging, have a good time. Ask your date about their day, their favorite things to do, places they’ve seen and things they want to do but haven’t. No need to get too deep on the first date, you just want to have a light and fun conversation, not scare them off.
You also need to be aware of your body language and what it is telling your date. If you are sitting across from each other, don’t cross your arms and look away from your date. That tells them you’re not interested in them (even subconsciously) and can start a downward spiral of the date. Smile at them, laugh when they say something funny, be open and ask questions. Touch their hand or arm when you are laughing – this first touch can open their mind to wanting to feel your contact more later on.
Don’t text or use your cell phone on the date, unless it is an absolute emergency. Make your date your first and only priority. They should have your full attention and respect. Also, don’t run out and post pictures and comments about your date all over facebook the minute the date ends. Be cool.
So let’s say the date has gone well and is nearing the end. Should you kiss your date goodnight (or perhaps even more)? Well that is completely up to you. You don’t want to seem too forward and scare them off, but on the other hand if the date has gone really well and you are both feeling a connection, do what feels right.
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